As a mother of seven daughters, we’ve had a discussion or two about purity in our house. However, when I tried to think of a specific conversation, I couldn’t at first. Then I realized why. I almost never use the word “purity”. It’s a good word—solid and true. But there’s an ugly side of the purity coin: self-righteousness. And while I don’t think it was a conscious decision, I wanted to avoid that.We all have it. Self-righteousness is ... Read More about Four Truths I Want My Daughters to Know About Purity
In August 2014, Thomas Umstattd, Jr. published his blog post, “Why Courtship is Fundamentally Flawed.” It sparked a firestorm, racking up more than 1,500 comments, provoking numerous rebuttals from other bloggers, and inspiring a Kickstarter campaign that led (just one year later) to a book entitled Courtship in Crisis: The Case for Traditional Dating.I read Thomas’s original blog post with interest, which quickly turned to indignation. Why ... Read More about Culture in Crisis
"How in the world am I supposed to find someone to marry in this day and age?"I posed this question, rather loudly, to my mother. My mother, the woman who has been married for over thirty years. The woman who was not only married by my age, but parenting already.It was late at night and two of my sisters and I were surrounding my poor mom, bombarding her with life's biggest questions while my dad worked a night shift. She sat on her bed, ... Read More about Modern Courtship and Dating: My Fresh Perspective
I was born in 1992. I wasn't a teenager until 2005, which means I narrowly missed the biggest "purity" era. I never attended a conference surrounding the topic of abstinence, made a vow in front of my youth group or was awarded a piece of jewelry symbolic of my commitment. My parents did things the old fashioned way by giving me my own Bible, praying for me, exemplifying a faithful marriage, and discouraging promiscuous behavior as I grew ... Read More about your purity is not your dowry
Myth #1There is a misconception within conservative circles (and among anyone who is familiar with the term ‘courtship’) that, if the couple who is courting do not end up at the marriage altar together, the courtship was a failure.I’d like to state right here, for the record, that there is no such thing as a "failed courtship". A courtship that doesn’t end in marriage is not a failure. It is a myth that “courtship should always end with a ... Read More about Courtship: Dispelling the Myths
The idea of purity – especially sexual purity – has got something of a bad rap in recent decades. Society calls it a conservative cliché. Feminists see it as a hanger-on from the days when culture was balanced heavily in the favour of men. They view purity as an unhealthy patriarchal construct designed to inhibit the freedom of women.The thing is, though, when it comes to matters of the heart, the world has changed very little since its ... Read More about of purity, secrets, and waiting
When my sister got married, she left I Kissed Dating Goodbye and several other books on my bedroom shelf for me to read “someday”. But I didn’t feel an urgent need to look at them.I’m the third of four kids in my family. Being twelve years younger than my sister, I learned a lot about teenage relationship struggles at an early age. Even though I didn’t yet understand what it was all about, the principles of courtship have been a part of my ... Read More about dusting off I Kissed Dating Goodbye
I love reading. Books are beautiful – the covers, the pages, the words. The smell of the paper and the ink, too. And then there's the story!But what's a girl to read? The choice of books is vast. And although it's tempting to judge a book by it's cover and read a book that displays a gorgeous picture or an intriguing title, that's not always wise—not for a girl who loves Jesus. Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of ... Read More about What’s a Girl to Read?
In the past months, as I’ve talked with different single sisters in Christ, the conversations have made me wonder about certain concepts that are being communicated to Christian young people. Concepts of what is the “best” and most Christ-honoring way to go about relationships. Though these girls were all in different situations and were doing their best to go about their romantic relationships in a way that glorified God, there was a common ... Read More about Emotional Purity?
We live in a fallen world. One of the evidences of this is that we really have no adequate term to describe the way in which young Christian men and women should get together. Perhaps some time after Christians return to a more obedient practice, we will have been doing it long and well enough to be able to name whatever it is we are doing.In the meantime, we must use such terms as we have, hence, biblical courtship or biblical dating. We ... Read More about Courtship DTR
How often does it cross your mind that the way we live as Christian women is to actually commend the Gospel? Carolyn Mahaney has written a book that brings that point home in a powerful way, highlighting “the seven virtues of a godly wife and mother” straight from Titus 2. Feminine Appeal has a powerful message packed in a little book: The world doesn’t judge us by our theology; the world judges us by our behavior. People don’t necessarily ... Read More about Appealing Biblical Femininity
It was the summer before I turned 13. The summer before I met Merritt. The summer my world changed from that of a little girl to a teenager. It was the summer I read His Perfect Faithfulness by Eric and Leslie Ludy.All I knew about dating was what I observed from afar in the church youth group. I didn't think I wanted any part of it. And I never could picture being on the stereotypical first date with a guy I hardly knew. In the story ... Read More about Kisses & Convictions