As a wedding present, relatives from New Mexico gave us this unique wedding vase. Janey told me the double opening represented the fact that now we would both drink from the same well.

A few months later, I was reading Dr. Laura Schlessinger’s new book Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage, and found much the same symbolism:

“Consider coming together with your spouse at the end of the day as an opportunity to drink from a well.The water doesn’t come up out of the well by its own force; you actually have to do something active to get the water to soothe your parched lips.

“…When at the end of the day you yearn for some relief from the day, prepare your mind and heart…get ready in your mind something you’re going to say to be fresh water to your spouse’s parched being.”

-Dr. Laura Schlessinger, Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage, pg. 89

Now each time I see our New Mexican wedding vase on my kitchen shelf, I am reminded that not only do Merritt and I share everything, “drinking from the same well.”But when I cheer and encourage him after a long day, I find the same refreshment as he responds to me lovingly.And we both find joy and rest drinking from the well of our love for each other…

One Comment

  1. lizzykristine says:

    I enjoyed this post so much, I almost want to hop over to New Mexico and get myself a similar vase. 😉

    I have found this true, as well. When I minister to Jonathan first, forgetting my “needs” (err, I should say, “wants”!), those wants usually end up met…. in a much better way than if I had kept self in focus.

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