I’ve been waiting for this year (2014) since the day my husband proposed to me. At some point during our dating season, I realized it was coming and started giggling over it, even then. It’s definitely fair to say that my dear man was warned, so I don’t feel even the tiniest bit bad about it.
This year, my husband, who will move up into his forties, will officially be married to a girl still in her twenties. Sounds scandalous, doesn’t it? Actually, we’re just over ten years apart but it so happens that there are three little months between his fortieth birthday and my thirtieth. Considering the fact that he teases me mercilessly about my abundance of gray hair, I think it’s about time I get to talk up my great youth.
All kidding aside, there are some wonderful things about being married to a man who is more than a couple years older than you (let’s not forget that there is an assumption being made that along with age, a certain level of maturity has been reached!) and while this post is written with a bit of laughter, there are a few things you should remember.
I don’t believe that there is any “right” age for someone to marry, nor do I believe that a girl needs to marry someone older than her. And, of course, I’m only sharing from my limited experience. That said; the positives of marrying someone older have been rapidly lost in a world where “young love” is often touted as the best kind. And I think that is a crying shame.
Why? Let me explain.
Marry someone at least ten years older than you and…
1. You’ll never feel old.
In other words, no matter how old you get, he’s always older. Whenever women talk about hitting thirty, or forty, or fifty (or any other age that causes them to have a slight crisis), you can always smile a little. Getting older is as easy as puddin’ pie because in your circle? You’ll always be the “young one.”
2. You’ll have no need for jealousy when you meet his high school crush at a class reunion.
After all, she’s old, too.
3. Two words: financial stability.
And by that, I don’t mean “you won’t ever have financial trouble,” rather, when you do have issues, he’ll probably be stable enough from maturity and been-here-before-ness that he won’t freak out.
4. No matter how different you seem than his mother, he won’t think to mention it.
Chances are he’s lived on his own for quite some time. The whole, “Well, my mom used to…” has pretty much faded into a distant childhood memory.
5. Meals will never be a problem.
Let me explain: when he gets home from work and you’ve either been working too, or completely forgotten what time it is—he won’t say anything stupid. Instead, he’ll either throw a meal together himself because he’s gotten quite good at it, or be ridiculously happy with toasted cheese and tomato soup because it’s way, way better than the burnt hamburgers he ate for years. It’s a win, win!
6. Everything you do for him will be INCREDIBLE.
You fold his laundry? Wow! You get up and make coffee? Glorious! You clean the bathroom? A-freaking-mazing. You wash dishes? So cool! You go grocery shopping on a regular basis so there is actually food in the cupboard? You might need to tell him to stop kissing your feet.
7. Your very presence will remind him of God’s grace.
When you marry a man who prayed for a wife for at least a decade, there will be many moments when you’ll catch him staring at you with pure joy in his eye because part of him really wondered if God would give him a wife and here you are.
Of course, there are many variables to any marriage and this list is not a formula, just a humorous look at some possibilities.