I didn’t feel in love.
Kristen and Caleb
As confused as I was about my feelings, I distinctly remember how strange it was to end our phone calls with just “Good night” and not “Good night, I love you.” I bit my tongue and often almost said “I love you!” many times. I had to stop myself.
I didn’t feel in love – I wanted to know where those stupid butterflies were! They were still caterpillars, but they were there. Not in the form I imagined, or the way I was looking for them…
Don't follow a formula. While it’s tempting to try and tuck love into some tidy box, it will never work like that. Do rely on the Holy Spirit. Rather than depending on someone else’s “step-by-step”, listen to the Spirit and how He is guiding.
(Lisa Jacobson in "Essential Dos and Don'ts for Courtship and Dating" at Club31Women.com)