not based on performance
Summer Brown & Luke Long
Over time I would realize that I thought I deserved to be blessed because I had tried to honor my parents and keep the principles of God’s word. God wanted to bless me but He wanted me to understand that His blessing was not based off my performance and good deeds.
"God was slowly just using a bunch of different things to convict me that I had a certain script laid out for how [my love story] was going to go. He just impressed upon me the need to hold my hand more openly and not decide how it was going to look like and how it was going to go—that I would not be so quick to judge and so quick to determine [my husband] was or wasn’t him."
(Lisa Jacobson in "Are You Ready for a Real-Life Love Story?")