How to Nourish True Friendship with Others
Friendship

How to Nourish True Friendship with Others

I stare at her text.

“I felt like you were dismissive and controlling. . .”

It’s like the phone burns my hand. I put it down and gaze out the window, willing myself not to cry, trying to gather my thoughts.

In following one friend’s advice, I inadvertently offended two others. And quickly clouding my sense of how I should respond and what to do next, shame swirls in.

I’m no good at this friendship thing. I don’t know how to do this. I am a terrible friend.

Run. Hide. Quit.

Though I’m confident keeping a home, doing a job, even teaching a classroom, being a friend is not a skill that comes easily to me. I’m much better at projects than at people.

But I know as human beings, we are created to love and be loved.

We are made in the image of God, meant to relate not just vertically but also horizontally.

It’s ultimately sin that fractures our friendships and causes the confusion, the isolation, the loneliness.

How to Cultivate Trust in Friendships
Friendship

How to Cultivate Trust in Friendships

“Elizabeth, I trust that you’ll make a good decision,” said my friend as we tromped through the woods on a long hike where we had been discussing a difficult situation I was in at the time. Not only was the decision tricky but also it involved a personally emotionally charged issue from my friend’s past.

Instead of telling me what I should do, recommending five books for me to read, and then praying for me in quivering tones, my friend had simply shared her experience and then let me know that I had her trust and support no matter what.

Her vote of confidence meant the world to me and put me in a place of peace with myself and peace with her. I knew that she was the type of person whom I was totally safe to share my life and struggles with. And her example really challenged me to reconsider how I respond when friends come to me with difficult situations, particularly those that trigger something emotional from my past.

The End.

The End.