Her name was Eve.
Sometimes people act and talk as if my identity is “single”. They imply that I’m not really a woman. I’m “single” because I’m not a wife or a mother — and, “obviously”, that means I’m not really-truly a woman.
Obviously, seriously, I’m a woman.
And I struggle (a lot) when people imply that I’m not really-truly a woman.
“Single” is not who I am.
I’d love to be a wife and a mother. I’d love to not feel insecure as a woman because there’s so much of womanhood that’s “beyond my ken”. That said and understood, however, single may be what I am today, but “single” is not who I am.
In the beginning, Eve wasn’t a woman because she was a wife and a mother. She was a woman because she was created as a woman by God. She was fashioned and formed by Him.
It’s a good and wonderful thing to be a wife and a mother, but God doesn’t define woman as wives and mothers.
God defines women as He defines all His children and if you are one of His children then (regardless of your marital status and family circumstances), like me, you are:
- So Loved by God that Christ Died for You (Romans 5:8)
- God’s Workmanship (Ephesians 2:10)
- God’s Child (John 1:12)
- God’s Friend (John 15:15)
- Secure in Christ’s Love (Romans 8:35:39)
You’re a woman because you were created as a woman by God. And my identity, your identity, is first and foremost that of a child of God. That’s who we are and in His eyes, in His heart, we are secure.
You are a woman. You are beloved. You are valuable.
Is your identity in your marital status and your family circumstances — “I am a wife and mother”, “I am single” — or is your identity in Christ?