Doorsteps
I believe in doorsteps.
I believe in doorsteps. I believe that God can create miracles in a place that is barren. I believe that God is powerful and if it is His will, the right man could show up on my doorstep.
So many times I have heard people admonishing singles to get out! Get looking! Stop sitting around and waiting! And I agree, to an extent.
We shouldn’t just sit around, twiddling our thumbs. We should do what we can with what we have, where we are, whether it be folding laundry and helping out at home, working in an office, or going to school. Neither should we turn up our noses at opportunities to make friends with guys or avoid social events where young men might be. However, to be quite honest, I have to say that I believe it to be a rare few girls who actually do that.
Some of us are living in places where there are no eligible young men. Maybe all the good ones are taken. Maybe none share the same convictions as we do. Maybe none are old enough or ready for marriage. And maybe some are just not paying attention to all the young women who are waiting to be asked.
It’s hard during a dry period, where you feel hemmed in and without hope on the horizon. It’s hard to hear people tell you that if you just did A, B, and/or C, you’ll meet a guy, because that doesn’t always happen and sometimes A, B, and C aren’t possible. It’s hard to hang onto hope.
And that’s where believing in doorsteps comes in.
Believing in doorsteps means opening the door – to hope. God is a God of hope and miracles and He would never have us lose hope. He would never have us doubt His abilities, never believe that anything is too impossible for Him. Even granting a single girl a husband, when she has been waiting so long.
I don’t expect my Dym – as I have begun to call that man who I have yet to meet, but hope to marry someday – to necessarily show up on my doorstep. I don’t expect a husband to fall into my living room while I wait in my own little corner.
I live life. I work. I laugh. I dance. I sing. I live. I don’t pin my hopes on every man that crosses my path because…I believe in doorsteps. I believe that God is in control and He knows which man may be my Dym. I don’t have to worry. I don’t have to wait twiddling my thumbs or go out on an epic mission searching for a man. God has the master plan and that’s enough for me.
And so, I hope. I hope, I live, I work, I pray, I wait…and believe in doorsteps.
from the IDD Blog
ile. I’ve also thought the same thing. What if God never chooses to bless me with a husband? Its something I’ve struggled with for the last few years, and really the last few months. I totally agree that all our hope should be in His plan for our lives, no matter how far the outcome may be from our own dreams. The thing thats getting me now is this. If I’m living my life right now in training to be a wife and mother, will I have wasted my time if God never sends a husband for me? Or is service to my family (parents, grandparents, siblings, neighbors, friends) still an honorable calling whether or not I ever get to use my skills on a family of my own one day? I think where-ever I’m serving for the glory of God, I will reap great spiritual rewards. I also know that God will lead me down the right paths if I acknowledge Him in All my ways. But I understand your point completely, thank you for posting it.
-LaReina
ile. thank you for your very balanced comment!!!
Thanks for the post, Krista.
Not wanting to be on the opposite side, but I want to be completely free of this “hope to be married someday” desire and longing.
I want to have hope in God and the future that He knows it is best for me – single or married, whatever He chooses for me.
So I put my hope in God and His plans – whatever they may be – and not in the God who will eventually give me a husband. What if He will never do that? WHAT THEN ?
I’ve never heard of Doorsteps. . .But these are the exact words I’ve been thinking for years. I always said God would have to drop a man on my doorstep with a BIG RED tag around his neck that said “For LaReina”. . . Sometimes its hard, but truely, seeking my Heavenly Father in times of little faith has brought me true joy. Thanks for the post.
You are so right! I have a really good friend who was introduced to her husband through a mutual friend. They lived only 5 miles from each other their whole lives, in an extremely small rural town, and had never met!! God knows just when and where we will meet the person He has planned for us. We don’t have to do any manipulation; He has it perfectly planned out!!
Beautiful and encouraging! I remember once in my early teens, hearing someone (I believe it was a radio discussion where mention was made of the book “I Kissed Dating Goodbye”) say flippantly, “God’s not going to just drop someone on your doorstep!” And I thought indignantly, “He sure COULD!”
So, reading this post, I am reminded of that strangely vivid memory and my own personal journey– which continues– of full and faith-filled waiting. I love it. I’ll have to remember this one!
Thank you so much for sharing this, Krista – it met a need in my heart this morning in a perfect way. We have so much to enjoy right here where we are – right here on our own doorstep!
Coming from someone who is now happily courting, but still remembering the years before…I can say this is one of the best posts yet! Doorsteps…I LOVE it. And I believe in doorsteps, because God DID bring an incredible young man into my life (after a broken courtship) and I can say that…true love is WORTH WAITING FOR. Yes…let’s not be afraid to have guy friends. That is good and healthy, if proper. BUT…let’s also be content and live, laugh, rejoice, sing, dance, hope, and believe…that GOD IS ABLE.
Thank you so much for sharing…this was SUCH an encouragement to me right now…I’m so thankful our God is so big!
Thank you for posting this! It was an encouragement for this single girl who lives a very full life. God bless!
Thank you Krista for this post. It was an encouragement and one that I needed right now! Thank you!
Krista,
I was so blessed by what you wrote, it is true, the Lord who made all flesh IS able to do far more than we can ever imagine or think. Let us put our hope in Him, for He never fails! Let us hope, and wait together!
~Joanna
great thoughts!!! thank you Krista!
Amen sister! Thank you for sharing that! So often I think single girls get caught up in waiting for Mr.Right instead of enjoying the life that is passing by! (I remember quite well doing that myself) God has placed us where we are for a reason and we are to rejoice in His gifts, and not waste time pining after what we don’t have.
God bless you Krista as you continue to enjoy the wonderful life God has given you!
Merissa