Written by You–Posts and Carnivals

Young Ladies Christian Fellowship is a place for young ladies… whether young in age or young in heart. We come here from many different seasons of life. Some are single, some are planning weddings, some are learning the basics of homemaking, some are rocking babies, some are busy with school and soccer games, some have teens and some have grandchildren. YLCF is for all of those women, in each of those stages. We do not want this site, nor the writing on it, to become one-sided. Our desire is to encourage all young women. It’s for this purpose we’re requesting your help.

The past year or two has seen a shift in focus here at YLCF, as one after another of our board and team members have married. We’ve enjoyed some wonderful posts from our sisters in their single years, and the response has indicated to us that such posts are reaching a deep need. But many, if not the majority, of our posts have reflected our individual stages. For many of us, that means we’re writing about our wonderful and beautiful marriages.

We understand–having all been there ourselves!–that it can be discouraging for an unmarried young woman to read post after post about married life. Our intention has been to share our hearts, as well as give our beloved friends a vision and a goal; to remind them that a fulfilling, Christ-centered marriage and the joy of children is something worth waiting for. But a few “little birds” have told us that it can be a bit much for a heart striving to be content. While we do believe it important to set one’s own boundaries in one’s spiritual journey (for example, if reading love stories causes discontentment or pain, we’d suggest not clicking on the Courtship Stories page for a new story every day!) and we certainly won’t ever stop writing from our perspective of wives and mothers, we would like to incorporate a bit more from the single years.

We’re not necessarily asking for posts about singleness (though they are certainly appreciated and needed). We’d like to know what you are doing with your single years. We’d like to catch a glimpse of your heart. We recently talked about making our lives count for Christ, no matter our marital status, and we’d like to hear more about how you are accomplishing that. If you are single, if you have wisdom to share… share it.

Along the same lines, we’d all love–LOVE–to hear from women who are in the next phase of life, past the first years of marriage or raising toddlers. The women who have a few more years of wisdom in their hearts and can offer a perspective most of us on the Team can’t pretend to grasp. We do understand, however, that time for such writing may be a slightly more limited!

This post isn’t borne out of desperation or a lack of posts or writers, but simply because we love interaction with all the ladies of YLCF. After all, the “F” in our name is for “fellowship” because it’s what we love most. Keeping in mind our Values and Writing Guidelines, get those fingers flying and let us hear from you!

As another means of promoting the fellowship and interaction (Gretchen already gave a little teaser to this) we’re going to ask for yet more participation from our dear readers. You’ve all had a chance to be privy to a day in each of the Team members’ lives–my own, the final installment, is coming on Friday–and now we’d like to get a peek into a day in your lives.

Next Wednesday, October 28, we’re going to host the “A Peek Into YOUR Day” blog carnival, right here at YLCF. This means you will have a chance to post about a real, normal day in your life on your own blog and then link to it here, giving all the readers of YLCF a chance to visit you and your day. The emphasis here is on being real. We don’t want idealized versions of what you wish your life were like, or what might fit a mold, but the real, day-to-day workings of your world. Whatever season you are in, whatever your life is like, we’d like to hear about it. If it isn’t real… don’t post it. :)

To participate, pick a day this next week to chronicle and come back next Wednesday ready to link up. My little nosy self is already excited! If you’d like to spread the word, grab this blog button and put it in your sidebar, tweet it, Facebook it, or post about it:

Copy this code:

<a href="http://ylcf.org" target="_blank"><img src="http://kindredgrace.gretchenlouise.netdna-cdn.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/10/peek-into-your-day.jpg?ac1916" border="0" alt="YLCF Blog Carnival"></a>

Every participant will be entered in the giveaway for this little 16-month day planner–along with a pretty pen, not shown, being that I still have to… obtain it. I don’t know about you, but I always fall hard and fast for anything with blue and brown! Along with adding your link to the carnival on Wednesday, comment and tell us if you add the button to your sidebar, tweet or write a blog post about the carnival before Wednesday for additional chances to win.


Official YLCF Giveaway Entry Rules:

  • To enter the drawing, please participate in the carnival or leave a comment on this post with the link to the place you’ve “talked” about the carnival.
  • Don’t forget to include your name and email address in the space provided on the comment form (your email address will not be published, but we need a way to contact you if you win!).
  • This drawing open to readers with U.S. mailing addresses only, please.
  • YLCF Team Members, their families, and recent YLCF giveaway winners ineligible for entry.
  • Drawing ends Sunday, November 1, 2009.
  • Winner(s) will be chosen randomly and notified by email Monday, November 2, 2009.

We can’t wait to hear from you!

Ashleigh Baker


Writer of words, lover of beauty. Heart belongs to one grown man and three small ones. Knits too much. Messy Jesus follower. Contributing Editor @DeeperStory.
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  1. Anna says

    I´d love to participate :) I am going to write about my day right now. I don´t look into this website often but it´s always as enjoyable :)

  2. Laura in ID says

    I thoroughly enjoyed the posts you each did about a day in your life. I have been thinking that doing a similar post on my blog would be fun, and now I have an incentive. Even though I won’t be able to link as part of the carnival, due to my blog’s privacy settings, I think I shall still participate, just for the fun of it. :)

  3. says

    Thanks for putting this on!! I am a huge fan of you ladies, and really look forward to this carnival and the post on singleness (of which I am working on writing up one!!).
    God bless you girls!

  4. says

    I wonder if we might ever hear from those wonderful husbands you girls are always talking about? I mean, they are obviously major parts of your lives, and even though they might not share your passion(s) for writing and recording, it’d be really interesting to just have one series or week or day dedicated to hearing what they have to say. What’s most important to them on a day-to-day basis? What have they learned in the recent years as newlyweds or young fathers? What is their side of the story (any story, really!) We girls want to know about the other half, I’m sure, and if these articles get passed along to any guys, I’m certain they’d appreciate any encouragement, motivation or wisdom. Just sayin’! Thanks…

  5. says

    Hi Ashleigh,
    I am so excited about the thought of writing a post on here! I love, love writing! And for a while I have been wanting to dip my feet into YLCF and ramble. I might have missed it I do it often but how would I publish a post from myself on here? Also, I would love to be a part of this carnival and I will try to get this dial up to post your adorable button on my blog very soon!

    • Ashleigh says

      Ginger, the first step would be to read the guidelines (see links in this post) and then submit your post to us via email. We read through all submissions, do any minor editing and then publish the ones we feel would be beneficial to the YLCF readers. :) Hope that helps!

    • Chantel says

      Renee, I’m sure Ash will explain it much better than I ever could, but there will be a post on Wednesday with instructions on how to share your link through a “Mr. Linky” that will be included in the post. It should be lots of fun- and easy to browse through everyone’s posts- and I’m looking forward to seeing you there too! :)

  6. Gretchen says

    The button is beautiful, Ash! It’s great to have an “in-house” designer! Thanks for all your work on putting this whole thing together.

  7. Hannah says

    I thank you and the rest of the YLCF team for your sensitivity towards us single ladies. There are days when reading a “married” post is fine, and other days when it hurts beyond words. I usually enjoy every post. But the YLCF post that has blest me the most was your recent post, “Marriage is Not My Highest Calling.”
    So, I guess what I’m trying to say is, “Thank you for all of the wonderful posts,” and, “keep up the good work.” =D

  8. says

    I’m pleased to be part of this blog carnival. It’ll be interesting reading how everyone else’s day progresses on an untypical typical day. :o) The button link is on my sidebar and I’ve posted it on my blog so others can be part of the festivities as well.

  9. says

    To the wonderful ladies of YLCF, you are all so amazing! Thank you so much for sharing your lives so openly and with such honesty. I’m sure I speak for many other ladies, we appreciate it beyond description.
    This is such a wonderful invitation. I definately might take you up on this offer and send you something I’ve written. Or might yet to be written;) Being in a season of singleness right now, I appreciate your sensitivity. However, we single ladies rejoice with you as we read of all God’s blessing on your lives!
    I will also definately take part of your carnival. I’ve put your link on my blog and will do a posting of a day in my life soon! Sound like fun.

    • Ashleigh says

      Sorry! I’ve fixed it now–there was a problem involving the font we use, of all things! If you have any more problems, let us know.

  10. Ashleigh says

    Don’t worry, ladies, we’re not going to stop posting about marriage! We couldn’t if we tried! : ) One of our goals here has always been to exalt truly Christ-centered marriage, and that’s not changing. We’re just hoping to expand to include more life stages.

    Sweet Judith, when you actually post your Day is completely up to you. I’m thinking most people will probably post on Wednesday morning, but some may not.

    Also, Wednesday is the day of the Carnival, so you probably won’t want the day you actually write about to be Wednesday. Hope that makes sense. : )

    • says

      Thank you, dear Ashleigh! That makes perfect sense. I’m looking forward to Monday (when I guess I’ll keep a diary of my day) and Wednesday! :) Have a lovely weekend with your marine and your little guys!

  11. Anna says

    Thank you ladies for all the work you put into this website…I really appreciate your heart to encourage women in all stages of life. I appreciate your thoughtfulness towards us single women as well! I’m hoping that you will continue with your “marriage” posts, though, as they have been a blessing to me. Maybe I’m unique, but as a single coming from a family in which none of the marriages have been exceptionally happy, reading your “marriage” posts proves to me that there are indeed women who love being married. It gives me hope that the beautiful marriage I dream of can actually be a reality!

  12. says

    Dear Ashleigh,
    thank you for this interesting, beautifully written post! Your thoughts about the future of YLCF show a lot of insight – we shouldn’t stand still, but change with life’s changes. I love to spend time on your site and learn by all your great examples how to lead a good, fulfilled life. I enjoy every single one of your thoughtprovoking posts, be it about singleness, homemaking or childraising.
    Thanks also for the inspiring “A day in the life…”-posts! Being a little nosy myself, I enjoyed accompanying you through your days. There was lots of inspiration for me how to serve my husband, family and friends better. I would love to let you have a glimpse of my life, but as my blog is in German, I think it wouldn’t be of much use here?
    Again to your thoughts about YLCF: please don’t change too much! Your site shows life as it is, and everyone of us is in a different stage in it. We still can choose not to read a post if it might hurt us! Though happiliy married, I have to face the fact that I very probably will remain childless. When congratulating family and friends to their second or third child, I am smiling – but at night there were and still are quite a few tears. There are also times when it is hard for me to read some “happy-mommy-posts”. But I would never, ever want to miss to see the cute babies around me growing up! And I really thank you for letting us participate in your first experiences as mothers, because maybe I can learn how to care better for my nieces and nephews!
    So please go on with this wonderful site, show life in all its seasons and let the readers decide, when and what to read. Remember: life is change, and even if we are unhappy with our present situation, we never should give up hope!
    Thanks to the whole team for all the time and work with this site!
    Best wishes, Martina
    P.S. Please feel free to correct my English!

  13. Betsy Castleberry says

    Just wanted to say that sounds like a great idea! I so appreciate all the work that the whole writing team puts into ylcf…it’s a wonderful encouragement to me. I think you do a wonderful job of balancing the marriage and singleness posts. It’s always encouraging to me to read about single young women living for God, but I also love the ones from married women. The married women have wisdom and insight that is truly uplifting. Keep up the good work!

  14. says

    P.S. When I say “your new plan” I refer to your intention of continuing to write about marriage and motherhood as well as your invitation for those of us in a different season of life to join the writing / sharing fun! Just thought I’d better clarify that point … ! :)

  15. says

    Ashleigh, thank you so much for this thoughful, sensitive post.

    I love reading the posts that you who are married share on YLCF. I started reading YLCF way back before Gretchen got married, so when I read her recent “Mommy Daze” post I couldn’t stop smiling – usually love stories end with “and they lived happily ever after,” but we all know that love stories (the ones that God writes) don’t end and you who are married are so generous in giving the rest of us little glimpses of how beautiful and wonderful “happily ever after” can be in the real worl. Thank you for that … soooooo much!

    But … yup … being single and getting older and reading about how beautiful and wonderful marriage and motherhood can be IS a painful combination. Your new plan sounds like a LOT of fun! :)

    About the “day in my life” carnival: do I post any time next week and link on Wednesday or post AND link on Wednesday … ?

  16. Heidi Anne Williamso says

    Dear Ashleigh,
    Thanks for posting. I’ve been wanting to write for YLCF and wanted to know what you needed.
    I’m a single young lady, and I’ll be glad to write about how I am trying to live for Christ each and every day.
    I think I’ll also join your “Peek Into Your Day” It sounds fun!

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